The trust bank

How much a person trusts you is more on them than on you; how much a person comes to trust you is more on you more than on them.-Chocomon ephiphanies

We all assign a certain level of trust in people when we first meet them based on our own experiences, beliefs and backgrounds and how the other person presents themselves.

This level of trust waxes and wanes as we interact with them and things happen.

The more trust you have in someone, the more you’re willing to give them the benefit of the doubt when they break your trust.

But if a person breaks your trust one too often and loses your trust completely, trust then becomes suspicion.

Building of trust happens in daily life, especially in relationships. Because trustworthiness is best demonstrated in not one action but in the consistency in one’s actions and intentions. (For we must not forget that sometimes, a person may be unable to act due to circumstances beyond one’s control. Therefore, intentions matter.)

And I’ll leave it at that, because that’s all that matters.

To love is many things.

One of which being: 

To love is choosing to keep an eye out for trustworthiness instead of keeping an eye out for suspicion. 

To love is to unconditionally approve and accept and embrace. 

The trust bank

The unknown frontier

I’ve always had a rich imagination, a rich inner world.

But it’s only really recently that I’ve actually actively started building a true mindscape, beyond soul rooms.

Or rather my soul rooms have evolved.

And I don’t know where it would go, it’s like am empty universe waiting for me to fill it up.

It’s exciting and unnerving, but ultimately, it’s really fulfilling.

To be able to die with such a rich inner world, I’d be proud of myself.

I honestly don’t know how this inner-world would look in a couple years, or a decade.

It’s…amazing when I realize I’ve started really building a world.

It started as a garden where all my signs/aspects hang out. With random mental dungeons for bunnies and pikaris and things.

But now…I’m making my mindscape reflect conscious aspects of my life, emotional and physical…and the thought takes my breath away.

Because I don’t know how it’s going to look, it’s like exploring and discovering.

And I know it’ll grow, there’ll be new inhabitants, things being chucked out, things being reappropriated…

When I zoom out enough, I’m really in awe of how I’m living my twenties, like I’m actually..LIVING it.

I’m finding my way, discovering myself, going through the process of growing (which includes being lost and discovering paths), even if mine is a more spiritual and mental journey.

I’m excited, I don’t know what I’ll become and I like that.

I have an idea of what I’d like to do and what paths I’d like to set myself on but yea..really excited about how my inner world is going to look.

I already know my love life for now is a farm land/field…what about the other aspects of my life? Hm..

 

The unknown frontier

Today’s truth

The person you love should make you feel more than you are, not less. Their love should make you love yourself more. They should not only make you a better person, but make you believe in the best and truest version of yourself. They should build you up, not tear you down. They should make you feel like you can take on the world. 

Healthy love should make you feel secure and fulfilled, healthy love should make you happy and feel enough. Love should feel like home. Healthy love, a healthy and cozy home. 

Love makes you brave, unafraid of jumping, of falling, because you know someone will be there to catch you when you fall, to help you put the pieces there together.  You know you’re not alone and you have someone to count on. That you have a home to go back to. 

Love isn’t all sunshine and rainbows, or butterflies and roses. It is the thrill of weathering the storm, the achievement of overcoming adversity, together. 

Love is freedom, love is acceptance, love is respect, love is care, love is support, love is hate, love is pain, love is sharing, love is joy, love is romance, love is magic.

 Love the the promise to keep all of that alive for each other, unconditionally. 

Today’s truth